Creating a Life You Love
There is so much pressure, especially in the United States, to make money, buy a house and have family. There's also the strong desire to become famous. Fame is now available for anyone that owns a smart phone and a social media account. Success these days is now weighed by how many followers you have or how many likes are on your photos. Success is measured by how many expensive clothes you've been able to buy or how cute you can make those Thrift Store finds look. Is this really what makes us happy? Society tells us yes, I am telling you no.
The more I remove myself from these thoughts manufactured visions of success, the happier I have been. When I donate bags of clothing and stop buying new clothes to replace them, the more I find peace inside my soul. When I deleted my social media accounts for 2 months, I felt more free and less anxious. We are living in a scary time right now. We are in the middle of one of the worst elections ever. Friends are turning against each other because of their political views. You may be like me where you don't like to participate, but it bothers you so much you can't sleep at night. The hatred in this country has got to stop. But it won't happen over night. These changes need to be made by each individual. Change yourself. Others may not follow, but you will be able to handle what comes your way because you've become stronger.
I think it starts with becoming content with the life you have been given. You can't change what's going on in the world and the more you dwell on it the worse you will feel. Yes, you should care what happens to your country. And I'm not saying that you should just give up on a dream. Fame isn't necessarily the worst. Buying new clothing doesn't make you a selfish person. Voicing your opinion is not always a bad thing. However, none of these things can actually make you happy. You have to find happiness within yourself and in order to do that you have to start removing the negativity.
Once you've removed the negativity, list out those goals you truly want to achieve. Maybe you apply for a dream job, but don't think that job will bring you happiness. Keep working toward what you want, but realize your happiness comes from within. Unfortunately, money is a necessity, but if you save as much as you can and remove the material aspects from your life you can start finding peace. You may realize you don't need to work 40-60 hour weeks because money becomes less important. Being content does not mean being lazy. Being content is realizing that life is ever-changing and you are not in control of the circumstances that come your way. You are only in control of the way you react to them.
Building a life your love is not about having everything that society tells you that you need. Start appreciating nature. Learn to become as self sustainable as possible. If you want to truly get to the point of living a life you love, start changing from within. Write out everything you're thankful for during the day. You'll find your views will shift less toward the material aspects of your life and more toward the people in it that bring positive vibes. You may start finding out that you need less and want to help others more. That's what a successful life should be. Don't conform to the worlds standards of success and happiness. Learn to appreciate the little things. That's creating a life you love.