Stop the Negativity. Be the Light.

Stop the Negativity. Be the Light.

The negativity that surrounds our every day life is the real reason the majority of us suffer from anxiety and/or depression. It's so hard to stay positive in a negative world.  We wake up and instantly we are surrounded by negativity from politics, violence and body shaming.  Friendships aren't what they were because people can hide behind the internet and say what they typically wouldn't say in person.  There's a constant hum of "Oh Em Gee, did you see what ____ posted the other day?". 

We are stuck in this world where every thing is documented from what you eat to where you're shopping to your "highly intelligent" views on the economy and politics.   We really can't escape it, but one way to make it less stressful is to remove yourself.  I have un-followed a lot of friends on social media (You can do this without  having to unfriend them).  This way, their negative behavior isn't the first thing I wake up to in the morning.  

Honestly, we can't really remove ourselves from it completely unless we go off the grid (can we please?) And with all the controversial issues in the world, I don't know why we think we can convince someone to change their mind with one social media post.  I'm not saying we should keep our opinions to ourselves, but we really need to start listening to others and not immediately shoot down their ideas. Take the time to listen, even if you know you won't change your mind. It's the polite thing to do. 

The point is, most people aren't going to change their mind because you say you don't agree or because you have a "proof that they're wrong".  So sometimes, staying quiet is the right thing. If you're religious, be religious but don't target those that are not. Love them.

If you're a Democrat and can't see how one of your best friends can be a Republican, you don't have to agree, but stop trying to change their mind with your words. Love them.  If you hate fat people because you are skinny or vice versa, remember that everyone struggle is different. Love them. You make a  much bigger impact on the world by the way you treat others than by the words you say. 

Another way to avoid the negativity is to stop looking through your social media, news outlets and even blog posts before you do something active.  The endless scrolling is just a waste of life.  The anger or anxiety you may feel would dissipate quite a bit if you just put down your phone or shut off your computer.  As I write this from a computer, I know it sounds hypocritical. However, I have spent most of my day outside before I sat down to write this post.  The first thing I did this morning was enjoy a cup of coffee without any technology near me.  I walked a few miles and read a few chapters from a book.

So if we all just made the effort to do other things before you surround yourself with technology, the world would be a more peaceful and happier place. Put down the phone. Go for a walk. You can come back home and all the drama will still be waiting for you, believe me.  Honestly, you should make it a goal to do at least 3 activities that don't involve technology.  Typically, I find I am less inclined to get upset or react to the negativity once I have done things for just me. 

On your death bed, will you really be disappointed that you didn't get to post your opinion on a political blog?  Will you really be sad that you missed a season of Netflix?  Will you really regret not writing your Facebook status that you were SO angry about the violence in the world? 

You'll most likely regret the fact that you spent all of your awake time glued to a screen.  Your children will grow up while you're busy arguing to faceless monster(the internet).  You may regret the break up that happened because you weren't paying attention to your significant other because you were too "busy". You may regret skipping the gym because the fitness Instagram post made you too depressed to move.  

Those are things you'll regret. So stop reading this, get outside. Stop scrolling aimlessly, start strolling aimlessly :) Start living.  Be the light in this dark, dark world. 

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